I often meet ladies in the local trains who can not be recognized as married women. In Mumbai I notice 90% married women do not use Sindur….BUT…most of them wearing the MANGALSUTRA…a sign of a married woman. Here I have seen the different styles of the Mangalsutras…a bit fashionable also. Oneday I asked one married lady about the Sindur..she told me that for them (she was a Marathi woman) Sindur is not compulsory for a married woman, but in their custom Mangalsutra is compulsory.
Few years back, I saw one program in Assamese Local channel which was based on Sindur. The program was based on the use of Sindur. Sindur is a sign of a married woman. In other words you can better say that Sindur tells the society about the existence of your husband. You are wearing Sindur, means your husband is alive. For some women, we the married women should wear Sindur to give the respect to our husband..whereas for some women they pointed that it becomes very difficult for a widow to survive in a society. Some people may consider them as a sign of unwillingness. In that reason, Sindur should not be considered as a hard and fast rule for the Hindu women. Think once for the widows who have been suffering a lot from the death of their husbands….think for them, who, after recognizing to be the widow, are placed always at the last in any social ceremony.
I personally feel that to respect our husband, no doubt we should wear Sindur……since from the very first day of our married life we have been praying, we have been fasting, we have been doing all the necessary jobs for the long life of our husband. We become happy when we are blessed as “Sada suhagan Roho”….have you ever noticed the actual meaning of this blessing…Sada Suhagan means you are blessed by everybody to die early than your husband…infact you are blessed this way on your wedding day itself!!!!
In my homeland also I found many married women without Sindur accepting the new trends…may be they are ready from the beginning to face the obstacles at the absence of their husbands or may be they are adopting some different culture not to be recognized as married….
What do you think???